Nonviolent communication glossary

Needs

Autonomy	to choose one's dreams, goals, values to choose one's plan for fulfilling dreams, goals, value
Celebration	to celebrate the creation of life and dreams fulfilled to celebrate losses: loved ones, dreams, etc. (mourning)
Integrity	Authenticity, creativity, meaning, self-worth
Interdependence	Acceptance, appreciation, closeness, community, consideration, contribution to the enrichment of life (to exercise one's power by giving that which contributes to life), emotional safety, empathy, honesty (the empowering honesty that enables us to learn from our limitations), love, reassurance, respect, trust, understanding, warmth
Play	Fun, laughter
Spiritual communion	Beauty, harmony, inspiration, order, peace
Physical Nurturance	Air, food, movement, exercise, protection from life-threatening forms of life (viruses, bacteria, insects, predatory animals), rest, sexual expression, shelter, touch, water

Feelings

	Thought expressed❌	Feeling expressed ✅
that, like, as if	I feel like a failure.	I feel sad.
I, you, he/she, they, it	I feel I am useless.	I feel disappointed.
Name or nouns referring to people	I feel my boss is manipulative.	I feel apprehensive.

	Thought expressed❌	Feeling expressed ✅
What we think we are	I feel inadequate as a guitar player.	I feel disappointed in myself as a guitar player.
What we think other people are evaluating me	I feel unimportant to the people with whom I work.	I feel sad.
What we think other people understand	I feel misunderstood.	I feel anxious.
What we interpret others	I feel ignored.	I feel relief. (If we wanted to be alone.) I feel hurt. (If we wanted to be involved)

The following words describe interpretation of the action of others like ignored: abandoned, abused, attacked, betrayed, boxed-in, bullied, cheated, coerced, co-opted, cornered, diminished, distrusted, interrupted, intimidated, let, down, manipulated, misunderstood, neglected, overworked, patronized, pressured, provoked, put, down, rejected, taken, for, granted, threatened, unappreciated, unheard, unseen, unsupported, unwanted, used.

Feelings when our needs are being met

Feelings when our needs are not being met

moved, optimistic, overjoyed, overwhelmed, peaceful, perky, absorbed, adventurous, affectionate, alert, alive, amazed, amused, animated, appreciative, ardent, aroused, astonished, blissful, breathless, buoyant, calm, carefree, cheerful, comfortable, complacent, composed, concerned, confident, contented, cool, curious, dazzled, delighted, engrossed, enlivened, enthusiastic, excited, exhilarated, expansive, expectant, exultant, fascinated, free, friendly, fulfilled, glad, gleeful, glorious, glowing, good-humored, grateful, gratified, happy, helpful, hopeful, inquisitive, inspired, intense, interested, intrigued, invigorated, involved, joyous,, joyful, jubilant, keyed-up, loving, mellow, merry, mirthful, pleasant, pleased, proud, quiet, radiant, rapturous, refreshed, relaxed, relieved, satisfied, secure, sensitive, serene, spellbound, splendid, stimulated, surprised, tender, thankful, thrilled, touched, tranquil, trusting, upbeat, warm, wide-awake, wonderful, zestful, eager, ebullient, ecstatic, effervescent, elated, enchanted, encouraged, energetic

afraid, aggravated, agitated, aloof, angry, anguished, annoyed, anxious, apathetic, irate, irked, irritated, jealous, jittery, keyed-up, lazy, leery, lethargic, listless, lonely, apprehensive, aroused, ashamed, mad, mean, miserable, mopey, morose, mournful, beat, bewildered, bitter, blah, blue, bored, brokenhearted, chagrined, cold, concerned, nervous, disheartened, dismayed, displeased, disquieted, distressed, disturbed, downcast, downhearted, dull, edgy, embarrassed, embittered, exasperated, exhausted, fatigued, fearful, fidgety, forlorn, frightened, frustrated, furious, gloomy, guilty, harried, heavy, helpless, hesitant, horrible, horrified, hostile, hot, humdrum, hurt, impatient, indifferent, nettled, numb, overwhelmed, panicky, passive, perplexed, pessimistic, confused, cool, puzzled, Cross, dejected, depressed, despairing, despondent, detached, disaffected, disappointed, rancorous, reluctant, repelled, resentful, restless, sad, scared, sensitive, discouraged, disenchanted, disgruntled, shaky

Request

Request should be clear, positive, concrete, with specific action.

Will you be willing to

Appreciation