Outer Child

Outer Child theory is discovered by Susan Anderson and described in Taming Your Outer Child.

Psyche Components	Description
Inner Child (Little You)	feelings, needs, wants developed during early childhood emotional core, innocent, vulnerable, obstinate, selfish, impulsive, knee-jerk reaction Needs to be heard and honored
Outer Child	acts out what the inner child feels inappropriately developed later "yes but", self-rebellious, reactive behavior patterns, defense mechanisms can be self-defeating patterns manifests outwardly interferes in the internal dialog between Inner Child and Adult Self
Adult Self	nurture Inner Child limit/parent Outer Child achieve your goals

Step 1: Separate feelings (Inner Child) from behaviors (Outer Child)

Outer Child

Outer Child
excessive	spending, binge eating
drama queen	plays the victim, the martyr the injured, under-reacts cries as a manipulation tactic
loves distraction	makes a mess and takes time to clean-up, use projection of his shortcomings as a defense mechanism
uncompromising	perfectionist but with a vice "If I do this perfectly, I should get a reward", if there is no reward, he is going to act out. E.g.: Outer can keep you heartbroken just to prove the injustice of the breakup.
selfish	some hide this selfishmess better than others. defensive rather than open, self-justifying rather than self-aware
loves blaming	obsessed and intolerant with other's outer children
master of disguises