Outer Child

Outer Child theory is discovered by Susan Anderson and described in Taming Your Outer Child.

Psyche Components	Description
Inner Child (Little You)	feelings, needs, wants developed during early childhood emotional core, innocent, vulnerable, obstinate, selfish, impulsive, knee-jerk reaction Needs to be heard and honored to be calmed
Outer Child	acts out what the inner child feels inappropriately (e.g: quick fixes) developed later "yes but", self-rebellious, reactive behavior patterns, defense mechanisms can be self-defeating patterns manifests outwardly interferes in the internal dialog between Inner Child and Adult Self to be tamed
Adult Self	nurture Inner Child limit/parent Outer Child achieve your goals to be strengthen

Outer Child

Outer Child
is excessive	spending, binge eating
is drama queen	plays the victim, the martyr the injured, under-reacts cries as a manipulation tactic
loves distraction	makes a mess and takes time to clean-up, use projection of his shortcomings as a defense mechanism
is uncompromising	perfectionist but as a form of bargaining, with a vice "If I do this perfectly, I merit a reward"), if there is no reward, he is going to act out. self-spiteful: make you miserable just to punish someone else. E.g.: Outer can keep you/Adult Self heartbroken just to prove the injustice of the breakup.
is selfish	some hide this selfishness better than others defensive rather than open self-justifying rather than self-aware
loves blaming	obsessed and intolerant with other's outer children
is master of disguises	acts pure and innocent but hides his vulnerabilities really well. E.g.: he never hates asking for direction when lost. pleasing persona developed by Inner Child's fear of abandonment but only for only to prevent them from rejecting you hides mean or selfish actions by altruism/moral superiority/righteous indignation/benevolence expresses anger by being overly passive compliance
is demanding	people pleasing but expect something in return
wants now
loves the getting, not having
Is about surface

Step 1: Separate feelings (Inner Child) from behaviors (Outer Child)